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This whole idea of "trying harder" makes me tired. And you are so right that we can't untangle our individual experience from the collective experience of all women. We can't "try harder" our way toward liberation. We must let our roots talk to each other, our earthen selves. Your idea of being the earth rather than the flower will stay with me for a long time. Thank you.

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Thank you Holly. I so appreciate your comment and I love the idea you introduced of the roots connecting underground. We need that now more than ever. I agree trying harder exhausts me - and I feel it plays into the ‘good girl’ archetype which many women are taught to function within. We can only be free when we can be wild, lazy, angry - all of it - and it cant be our individual responsibilities to change a system which is not working with us. ⭐️💪🏻

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I was so moved by this. And I agree. Thank you.

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Thank you Jane. It wasn’t an easy one to hit publish on - and I am so touched it is connected with you ⭐️

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Very glad you did 🌷

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Thank you so much for writing this. Yes yes and yes!!

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Thank you Angela!

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I felt so expansive while reading this. Thank you for sharing!

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I LOVE that Jacoda. That is exactly why I wrote it. And I think writing it and especially publishing it helped me expand a bit too. Thank you for connecting.

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Thank you for this potent offering.

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Thank you Rachel! I appreciate that.

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Catriona thank you for sharing this article with me. Are we the same person??! 😆

Killer article. 💪🏽I found myself nodding 'yup, yup, yup and yes, yes, yes!' all the way through.

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So happy this resonated Rose. Love that. Definitely a lot poured out in this piece!

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It has really made me think about the fact that I have yet to publish an article explaining exactly what 'pushed me over the ledge' to be such a vocal supporter of women... the shove came from, ironically (as you discuss), the behavior of other women. So stay tuned... I'm clearly gonna have to write about that at some point - thank you for the inspiration and for your bravery.

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Hi! I came across your writing thanks to Carrie Stardust. Glad to “meet you.” This paragraph is so powerful. Thanks for reminding me to how to quite literally ground myself, and to pass this message on to other young women in my life.

“If I had a daughter, I would teach her to be like the earth itself. To be messy, solid, firm. I would show her how to take up space so that she cannot be ignored. To let life wildly take root inside of her, so that she becomes the mountains, a riot of trees, fields of grain. I would tell her to root so deep, that even when they dig, they cannot uproot her. So she can shape a world in which she can flourish. “

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